Remembering conversations - my 4 tips

It’s funny how something is vaguely in your awareness for a long time…then suddenly it CLICKS into full realisation.

I had a memory related moment like this recently, based around conversations with friends.

I suddenly realised with clarity that I was at times needing to question myself on whether I’d already told them something on a previous occasion.

Or whether we’d already had a conversation on a particular topic before…

I’d find myself saying -

- ‘I may have already told you this but….’

- ‘I think we might’ve already spoken about this but…’

I wasn’t able to keep track of what things I’d told what friends as much as I would have liked.

It hadn’t caused any trouble or harm however it did get me thinking.

- Was there something different I could be doing to help remember conversations?

Becoming known as someone who is all about memory is certainly motivation.

And it’s often simply working out the barrier that helps work out the solution.

My barrier?

I believe my barrier in this situation, was being too in my head, distracted by worry. Worrying about what the other person is thinking, worrying that I’m making sense, worrying about coming across how I mean to come across.

Worrying instead of being relaxed and present.

So, here are the ideas I’ve come up with to combat this!

• Focus on being present (relax any tension and breathe…)

• Tap into your emotion in the conversation. It’s been proven that memories with strong emotional ties are easier to recall.

• Reflect on the conversation afterwards, recalling what was spoken about. (This can offer an opportunity for gratitude too.)

• Remember the time and place the conversation was held or any other details surrounding it. (When we come to recall what was previously spoken about, recalling the time and place can be a helpful trigger.)

Here’s a get started challenge!

During the next conversation you have with a friend, think about the different emotions you’re feeling throughout.

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