Remembering the ‘getting to know you’ conversation
What are you like when you have that first ‘getting to know you’ conversation.
The one that’s a bit more than an introduction and a hello. The one where you might get loaded up with all the base details of someone’s life -
Where they live…where they used to live…what they do…what they used to do…their family…their hobbies etc. etc.!
Often all in a fairly short space of time.
Then, you go away and someone asks you details about that person.
How many details do you actually remember??
All the vivid details?
Some vague details?
Maybe no real details at all?!
I was thinking about this today after being in this very scenario.
A 45 minute meeting and conversation in fact.
A fair amount of information to absorb.
I thought to myself, how could I maximise the information I actually remember?
Here are a few things I came up with!
A NOTE also:
These tips of course line up with some of the core themes of memory techniques. It’s simply helpful associating them to everyday examples.
- ‘PRE-PLAN’
Before starting a day or heading to an occasion where you might be meeting and chatting with new people, take a moment to consider your motivation -
What would it mean if you were able to remember with ease what you get to know about this person?
Imagine a friend or family member asking you about the interaction afterwards - how would you like to or be able to respond?
It might sound a little over the top but it can literally take a moment and be the difference between remembering and not remembering!
- THINK IN PICTURES
Let’s say they’ve got….2 kids - 7 and 5 years:
Imagine this as a picture.
Let’s say, imagine the person, kicking a ball around with their 2 kids of this age.
- THINK IN STORIES
Life is a whole lot of stories.
Experiences people go through.
Has the person moved from one country to another?
Really tune into the story.
How would this experience have been for them?
Feel the emotions they may have gone through!
Follow these 3 simple strategies and I can bet you’ll be feeling more confident about remembering those ‘getting to know you details’ than ever.
Who knows what this could mean for your own life in the long run.
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